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Readers’ Questions
Now having three children I am finding it impossible to balance quality time with each child, for myself and my relationship… What are some tips you can advise?
I am needing to put my son in Childcare, but I think we both suffer from high separation anxiety. And I feel terrible to have to put him into one. He is 20 months, how do I overcome this?
I have a 2 year old and a 7 month old. At times I wish I could be more patient with my 2 year old and was wondering if you could give me some tips for this. My failure to be more patient often leaves me feeling quite down, I have read in your other responses that it helps to have a list of positive thoughts written down, could you give a few examples of what you mean?
We have a gorgeous 2.5 year old daughter, who is definitely going through terrible twos. I work fulltime and her dad is the homemaker. She purposely tries to annoy me and make me rouse at her. She chews on her hair, picks her nose and screams out. I find she doesn’t listen to me as much as her dad. She is still going to sleep with a bottle on a pillow on our lap in the loungeroom, then we put her to bed, I know it’s our fault but how can we change her? I find my patience level is very low. Please help me!
I am having trouble with my 6 year old son’s eating. I am so tired and just give in to him.
He eats vegies but which kid doesn’t like spag bol? - MINE. He won’t eat casseroles or anything like it. Any suggestions? Please?
How do I get my 14 month old twin boys to sleep through the night? I would even settle for most of the night. At the moment they are waking about 5 or 6 times each a night. I average about 2 hours sleep at the moment.
Does being in a loveless marriage affect your child even though you’re together for the child’s sake?
I am struggling with a great desire that I have to stay at home with my two gorgeous girls who are growing up too quickly and the ever present practical need to earn money by going back to work. I have found such a lower passion for my work (teaching) since having my own children and feel that I am being unfair to the students as the demands on my time (marking, meetings, programming) are all things that are expected in our free time after school hours. This extra stress is something I resent as I obviously want to be spending as much time with my own children as possible. My other concern is my husband’s unwillingness to appreciate the stress I am under in my current job and his unwillingness to discuss other options as he wants me to return to fulltime work next year. As the New Year approaches I feel this feeling of doom and negativity about what may lay ahead for me in 2009. I have even looked into other careers however none seem to give me the time at home/money I receive from teaching. My sadness is really coming from the strong stance my husband has taken and the guilt he is putting on me for wanting to reduce my hours. Thankyou.
I was wondering if there is an organisation that would help boost confidence/self esteem that is permanent for mums and to help set up my own business from home to have a flexible family/work life balance?
I have a 2.5yr old and she tends to hit when she doesn’t get her way or sometimes even when you look at her doing something or when you talk to her and she is not in the mood… I don’t know how to overcome this… If you are able to help out that’ll be great. Thanks.
I have a 2 year old and a 3 month old. When my 3 month old was 2 weeks old I had an accident involving her falling which could have been very dangerous - thankfully I was able to break her fall in time and she was fine. However I think about it every day and it has made me really question myself when it comes to her safety. I am always worrying about her and I’m afraid that these negative feelings might lead to something bad happening.
I have never felt anxious about my other child’s safety in this way and even since the accident I still don’t.
Is there any way I can forgive myself for what happened (although I know that it was an accident and beyond my control, but she was in my care) and move on? I need to get my confidence back so I can enjoy my baby rather than worry about her.
I am just wondering if you know of any support groups that are held in the Sydney area for woman who have had a caesarean?
My daughter is almost 7 months old and was born by emergency caesarean. I had a dream pregnancy and went into spontaneous labour. My labour was progressing very quickly and all was going extremely well. My OB broke my waters (the lining was so thin; they would have broken on their own very soon) and he saw a lot of meconium. My baby’s heart rate was monitored and
showed that it was rising and falling dramatically. The OB held off as long as he could before organising for me to have a caesarean.
I am still very, very emotional about the outcome and am keen to talk about it. I am now absolutely determined to have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Caesarean) for our next baby (won’t be for a couple of years though).
I am a single mum and have heard people saying that I mother my 2 year old daughter too much because I am always watching her. Should I give my girl a bit more space?
How can I be totally satisfied with Life as a Mum? How do other Mums do this - is it possible?
I am a young mum, 23, with two gorgeous kids, Jake 2 and Tahlia 5 months.
I have been feeling very lonely, down and not happy at all lately.
I don’t know what will make me happy, it’s affecting my relationship
with my partner, I’ve lost all my confidence, through from going
out to driving. I don’t know who I am now other than a mum and
don’t know how to get the motivation and confidence to go out
there and start living life again! Hope you have some words of
advice.
I have a 22 month old daughter and another on the way. I enrolled
my daughter into a daycare 1 morning a week for 3 hours, purely
for her to play and socialise. But, lately I have been feeling
guilty for leaving her as sometimes she gets upset and knows if
I am going to leave her. I wonder how I will cope and how she
will feel when my other baby comes along as I really feel it will
help her to play with other children but I sometimes feel I could
be doing the wrong thing. My partner is supportive and says she
should be going consistently and I agree but there have been some
days where I have decided not to take her because I hate the feeling
I get when I leave her, that is selfish right?
My partner says she could do another morning a week especially
when our other baby arrives, do you think this is a good idea?
And how do I keep at this consistently without feeling guilty?
Thanks.
Since having my son Mitchell (now 1) I have
slowly but surely lost who I am! I am wanting very much to get
some of the vivacious and outgoing person I was before, but find
it so hard to know where to begin. I am not suffering from PND
or anything like that… I just feel like a big chunk of me has
gone…
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